Sunday, October 18, 2009

How to Deal with Toddler’s Aggressive Behavior


Most toddlers’ aggressive behavior can be exhibited through biting, kicking, hair pulling and other scary anti-social manifestations. You must be wondering what’s going on with your child and what’s on his mind. An aggressive behavior is part of their development.

Although, hitting and biting and other violent reactions are normal it doesn’t mean you have to ignore them. Toddler’s aggressive behavior usually develops when they cannot express themselves clearly.

The Right Things to Do

Perform a logical approach when you child starts manifesting toddlers aggressive behavior. This will be possible by sitting down with him and let him see how other children play. You can explain to him that hitting and throwing his toys is not a part of the game. He can still join the game if whenever he’s ready. Toddlers don’t have the capacity to work on their cognitive behavior but they can fully understand the consequences if you will explain it to him.

Stay cool as you talk to your child. Yelling, scolding and hitting him won’t solve your problem. You will not be a good example if you always yell at him or hit him whenever he did something wrong.

Set clear limitations to your child. You should respond right away whenever your toddler’s aggressive behavior starts. Don’t wait for him to hit his siblings for the second or third time before you respond and tell him he’s wrong. He should know right away when he’s wrong.

When you need to discipline your child, do it consistently. Parents tend to ignore their toddler’s aggressive behavior when they are not in public. This shouldn’t be the case if you want to correct your child’s activity.

When you know you’ve tried everything to correct your toddler’s aggressive behavior and no improvement shows. You should seek professional help to help you with your concern.

9 comments:

  1. These are really helpful. Great blog. Keep it up

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  2. i think i have to do a lot of backreading from this site :D

    hi! visiting you today.. and followed your blog too..

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  3. Hi Mrs. Kolca,

    Thanks so much, I truly appreciate that. Anyway I also followed your Amelita blog.. Your daughter is really adorable.

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  4. Hi! My son is biting. It's very difficult to distinguish whether he will kiss or bite as he is also fond of kissing me and others. I have consistently told him it's not nice and put him in our time-out area. But still he bites when you least expect it. Sometimes to tease me.

    Do you have any other suggestions I can do to prevent him from biting?

    By the way, I'm also following your blog now. It's a good read.

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  5. Thanks Lalei for reading and following my blog.

    How old is your child, by the way? Well, try to talk to him nicely and ask hm why he bites. You see, there are many factors to look into like maybe he's gums are itching because his teeth are starting to come out and he does not know how to manage it.

    Try to know the root cause of his biting. While you try to discover the cause, just distract him from that habit.

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  6. Handling tantrums of a child is a big challenge to us parents, good thing there are articles like this that could help us cope up with the situation. Thanks :)

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  7. Thanks for the great information on your site. Some toddlers definately need more taming than others. Lukily we seem to have an easier ride the second time around.

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  8. I'm Abigael, I have a 2 yrs and 6 months daughter. she grew with me till 2 and 2months then I left her with my mom & eldest sister. she have adjusted already with them. She is with my mom the whole day, she will just be with my sister when she arrives from work. My problem is she behaves well, talks and obeys my mom when they are together but when my sister arrives, my daughter starts to dislike my mom. Mostly she cried and yell "i don't like" when my mom comes inside their room. She will not stop till my mom gets out of the room. And mostly she wants to watch tv rather than chat with me. What should I do about this behavior? Thanks

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  9. MY 3 YR OLD DAUGHTER HAS STARTED SCREAMING NO AT ME WHEN I TELL HER TO DO SOMETHING. IF I GET ON TO HER FOR THIS SHE HIT MEAND SCREAMS AT THE TOP OF HER LUNGS. THE FATHER FIGURE IN HER LIFE (HE HAS BEEN THERE SINCE SHE WAS 6 WEEKS OLD) AND I RECENTLY SPLIT UP. COULD SHE BE SUFFERING FROM SEPERATION ANXIETY OR SOMETHING? PLEASE HELP!!!

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